If you are concerned about being awarded custody of your child in a North Carolina divorce, there are some things you can do to help improve your odds. The court generally will place the children based on what is in their best interests. There are many different factors considered when this decision is made, but the Huffington Post notes there are some standard things that can help set you apart from the other parent and increase your odds of being given custody.
No parent will be awarded custody if it is proven they are unfit. This includes having issues with drugs and alcohol or being prone to violent actions. If you have been threatening your spouse during the divorce, this will look bad when it comes to custody. If you have ever been convicted of a violent crime, this, too, will affect what the court rules. It is important not to make your situation more difficult by fighting with your spouse or having an outburst in court. You must maintain a calm attitude and be sure you can provide proof that you have gotten help for any past issues that could affect your chances at custody.
It is also essential to show the court you are the primary caregiver who manages the day-to-day lives of your children. As the primary caregiver, you need to know about every aspect of your children's lives, which include their doctors' information, their school information and information about their friends. You should know each child's schedule, including extracurricular activities. You should understand their medical care, knowing when they go to the doctor and being familiar with all medical providers. It is also important you are actively involved with your children so others, such as teachers, doctors and the parents of friends, know who you are. This information is only intended to educate and should not be interpreted as legal advice.